There has been a lot of debate (if you can call it that) about the term "legitimate rape" and the reproductive system of women. First of all, Rep. Todd Akin, I understand that you have apologized, but apology not accepted. The term "legitimate rape" has sent the entire civilization back at least a hundred years. Even more, if you consider how cave-man like the term really is. I want to start by saying that RAPE is RAPE. There is no way to sugar coat it or water it down. It's not a subject that everyone wants to hear about, but is on my mind.
I know that there are many terms out there that people associate with rape: date-rape, sexual assault, incest, molestation, etc. Let me start by saying, not one of those terms could be as possibly offensive as "legitimate rape." Rape no matter how you term it, it is detrimental to person that is why they are called victims. So for anyone to say that there is a definition of what can be considered legitimate rape and what is not then you have never been a victim or known a victim yourself. (Heck at this point, I would wonder if anyone using this term has a mother, wife, sister, or daughter who they think would have to endure a "legitimate rape".)
Rape is one attack that is FOREVER. It is widely under reported and more widespread than many people know. This is primarily because the victim has to prove it. The entire burden of proof is on the person who has already been assaulted, who must keep reliving and retelling one of their worst memories of their entire life. The hardest of all to prove is date-rape. There are still too many people in this world who think that NO can still mean YES. (NO means NO!!!!) So just because someone is your boyfriend, friend, or husband (speaking for woman right now, yes men can be raped too!), forces themselves on a woman does not mean she was looking for it. It does not matter how provactively she dressed or how much she flirted or teased, no permission for the cookies, means NO!! So Mr. Akin, is date rape not legitimate rape? And who are you to judge that?
Sexual assault is the term most often heard in the media especially if the victim does not have a lot of bruising. It is also what most rapist plead down to or get convicted of in the court system. I guess some people believe that if you didn't have a lot of physical evidence that you really didn't fight back hard enough. But tell me anyone, if your attacker has a good 100 pounds on you and has you pinned, its a little hard to fight back. So if your knees are wrist or the only thing bruised, I guess that's not legitimate rape, Mr. Akin and your supporters? How silly can us women be, next time we should make sure that we sustain some broken bones!!
And worst of all, you believe that women have control over their bodies while being "legitimately raped" and can somehow stop impregnation. If we had that much control, then why are there so many unplanned pregnancies in this country? I guess we just didn't have enough control over our bodies when we aren't being savagely attacked. In addition to suffering this horrendous attack, 31 states in the US have laws giving parental rights to attackers who happen to father children during rapes. So, you wonder why there aren't many reported cases of impregnated women who report rape because they bargain away their right to justice to keep the creep who attacked them out of their lives! I read somewhere that 30% of women who conceive a child during rape, give birth to the child. Not sure I could handle it, but I definitely wouldn't want the creep in my life forever just because he viciously donated unwanted sperm.
So can I ever accept your apology Mr. Akin? I would have to be an idiot! And you are still a caveman!
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